The real enemy of the woman is not the man it is....

The enemy of the woman is….. the women!!

One day, during a conference in USA about the sex discrimination at work, the debate was so rich some women told about how they were discriminated by men (colleagues, bosses) how they were asked sometimes to do things which are not at their academic level only because they are women!

The debate was in one direction woman against men, when I raised my hand to tell loudly my opinion: I don’t really think that, at work, the real enemy of the woman is men….but I think is…women!!

At that time, my opinion was based only on what I heard from friends, members of family… because I was just a student with non working experience, but now I’m grounding it on my personal experience!!

In my first job, which I get it thanks to my studies, to my little but very important experience in USA, to my ability to talk and write 3 languages,.., to sum up to my good CV plus my very good behaviour (I’m not making any advertising or marketing to my self but I’m doing it at purpose… please carry on reading and you will know;) ), Almost all the staff was men , I had 4 bosses 3 of them men and one a woman, and several colleagues most of them young.

During all the period where I were working there, I faced no problem with the men either colleagues or bosses. I may say that I was spoiled by them; when I ask for something in what concerns the work I get what I want and more! They offered me all their help and tried to make things easy for me. I have even my 3 musketeers” (3 young colleagues whow assisted me in all my tasks, ask about me when I was absent or sick,come by my office just to check on me, etc)…

So I was in work paradise ….no almost!! Because the WOMAN boss which was a woman of power tried her best to make my work life a hell!!! She did efforts to let me feel like I was just a young girl, just a non competent one, a girl making much mistakes at work,… she did what she could to minimise my skills!! And her special job was to make me non confident about my self!

Plus, her insistent effort to look as young as me (she was at her fifty’s!!) she even wore
a colour that she never liked to wear it (red) because in that period I liked to wear it!!

So one of the reasons that I left that job was HER!

Now I get another job, I said to my self that finely I will have a break!

But... althought that I get a good and kind boss, I’m facing the same problems with a WOMAN, she is just a colleague but from the first day she tried to make me feel not welcomed in this new job! And her first question to me was” How old are you? She was like saying:” Ken temchi tal3ab kodem darkom khir!!!”

In the second day at this new work, the idea that I got is to leave the job!! But after thinking deeply I decided to stay because in any job I would work with WOMEN, so if I leave the job because of their aggressive and discriminatory behaviour against me I will never work!

So I have to learn how to deal with the Enemy, any help please: any strategy, advices?